Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
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- Author：Lori Gottlieb
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Summary
From a New York Times best-selling author， psychotherapist， and national advice columnist， a hilarious， thought-provoking， and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist’s world—where her patients are looking for answers （and so is she）。
One day， Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice。 The next， a crisis causes her world to come crashing down。 Enter Wendell， the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands。 With his balding head， cardigan， and khakis， he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting。 Yet he will turn out to be anything but。
As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients’ lives — a self-absorbed Hollywood producer， a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness， a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better， and a twenty-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys — she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell。
With startling wisdom and humor， Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient， examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire， meaning and mortality， guilt and redemption， terror and courage， hope and change。
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor， offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human， and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them。
One day， Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice。 The next， a crisis causes her world to come crashing down。 Enter Wendell， the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands。 With his balding head， cardigan， and khakis， he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting。 Yet he will turn out to be anything but。
As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients’ lives — a self-absorbed Hollywood producer， a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness， a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better， and a twenty-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys — she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell。
With startling wisdom and humor， Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient， examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire， meaning and mortality， guilt and redemption， terror and courage， hope and change。
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor， offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human， and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them。
Reviews
Érica Fonseca
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Eu não tenho certeza do que dizer sobre este livro。 😕É um livro aberto e honesto sobre saúde mental， e como devemos enfrentar os nossos medos， e isso é um ponto positivo。 No entanto， o livro e o enredo são totalmente confusos。 A estrutura é um pouco desorganizada e difícil de seguir cronologicamente。
Ananya
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Gottlieb's experience as a therapist was so heartfelt， with explainers for each new psychological term， that I wanted to keep reading until the end。 It was so well written， I felt instantly connected to her patients and even her therapist， Wendell。 If you fancy delving into the realm of modern therapy from a therapist's perspective， then this is pretty great。 Gottlieb's experience as a therapist was so heartfelt， with explainers for each new psychological term， that I wanted to keep reading until the end。 It was so well written， I felt instantly connected to her patients and even her therapist， Wendell。 If you fancy delving into the realm of modern therapy from a therapist's perspective， then this is pretty great。 。。。more
Nastja
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Terapeut， kes käib teraapias， ja kirjutab nii kliendi kui terapeudi perspektiivist ühekorraga – noh， psühholoogina ju vägagi huvipakkuv lugemine！Sisuliselt põimib autor oma raamatus kolm liini – oma klientide teraapias käimise protsessi ja lood， omaenda teraapias käimise protsessi ja seega ka oma loo， ning üldised psühhoharivad faktid teraapia， stressi， suhete jmt teemade kohta。 Sel moel saab lugeja justkui kaasa teha ühe suure üldisema teraapia teekonna， noppides kaasa teadmisi inimpsüühika toi Terapeut， kes käib teraapias， ja kirjutab nii kliendi kui terapeudi perspektiivist ühekorraga – noh， psühholoogina ju vägagi huvipakkuv lugemine！Sisuliselt põimib autor oma raamatus kolm liini – oma klientide teraapias käimise protsessi ja lood， omaenda teraapias käimise protsessi ja seega ka oma loo， ning üldised psühhoharivad faktid teraapia， stressi， suhete jmt teemade kohta。 Sel moel saab lugeja justkui kaasa teha ühe suure üldisema teraapia teekonna， noppides kaasa teadmisi inimpsüühika toimimise kohta。Raamat on jõle mahukas。 Ütleksin， et see on liiga mahukas ja laialivalguv ka。 Kuigi paberil kõlab raamatu ülesehitus põneva ja leidlikuna， tähendab see tegelikult hästi palju hüppamist ühelt teemalt teisele， mis loob lõpuks killustatuse ja segaduse， et oot-oot， mis kogu selle asja point nüüd ongi？。。Minu jaoks oli psühhohariv pool hästi basic， justkui esimese paari õppeaasta info， mis psühholoogia erialal saab。 Mõistan， et nö tavalugeja jaoks on suur osa infost tõenäoliselt uus， aga minu jaoks kujunes see hästi kordavaks ja tüütuks lugemiseks。 Samal ajal omamoodi vahva kogeda， et kuulus terapeut-autor kirjeldab täpselt samu asju， mida minagi praktiseerin :）Väga inimlik ja vajalik teos， mis samal ajal minu jaoks jäi veidi laialivalguvaks ja kaugeks。3，5 tärni。 。。。more
Morgan Isern
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I’ve never read a book like this before！ Lori Gottlieb walks you through her experience AS a therapist and her subsequent sessions， while simultaneously walking you through her experience GOING to therapy and her own internal challenges。 Every story is fascinating - the issues brought up by her and her patients。 They are moving and thought provoking。 I’ve never myself been to therapy， but have always felt like anyone could benefit from it。 Reading how much Lori cares for her patients and underst I’ve never read a book like this before！ Lori Gottlieb walks you through her experience AS a therapist and her subsequent sessions， while simultaneously walking you through her experience GOING to therapy and her own internal challenges。 Every story is fascinating - the issues brought up by her and her patients。 They are moving and thought provoking。 I’ve never myself been to therapy， but have always felt like anyone could benefit from it。 Reading how much Lori cares for her patients and understanding more about the therapist / patient relationship was such a pleasant surprise。 Not to mention， Lori’s writing style is easy， witty， and fun。 。。。more
Delana Owen
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This is a book for anyone who ever wondered what it would be like to talk to a therapist， or be a therapist， or both。 The author opens up her insecurities and her insights for owning up to your issues and becoming more of the you you’d like to be。 I loved it！ She introduces four patients that she she sees and allows you to learn about yourself through them。 She takes us to her therapist and allows us to grow along with her。 In the end， the takeaway is that people are flawed but trying， and that This is a book for anyone who ever wondered what it would be like to talk to a therapist， or be a therapist， or both。 The author opens up her insecurities and her insights for owning up to your issues and becoming more of the you you’d like to be。 I loved it！ She introduces four patients that she she sees and allows you to learn about yourself through them。 She takes us to her therapist and allows us to grow along with her。 In the end， the takeaway is that people are flawed but trying， and that there is beauty in all of them， including ourselves。 。。。more
Kevin VanderMolen
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I enjoyed learning about the process of therapy， and the very touching stories of her patients。 I don’t remember if it was in an intro or disclaimer at the beginning， but I kept thinking about patient confidentiality。 It seems like either the patients stories were combined with others， or they would have signed something giving their OK。
Parker Schramme
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Human and heartwarming。 Not at all what I expected。
Heather
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Absolutely Required ReadingThe author gets to the heart and soul of therapy and humanity。 Incredible writing and incredible storytelling。 An absolute must read…with tissues。
Christel
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This book was AMAZING！ I highly recommend reading it！
Emily Kurzen
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I’d read it again。
Callie Jennings
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I adored this book， have recommended it to friends several times， and my friends have adored it。I'm very skeptical of therapy and have had mixed experiences with it - this book depicts how I imagine it would work if it worked！ And hearing these stories and the deep wisdom that the author draws from them makes me believe it sometimes does。The writing is deeply touching and the balance between theory and storytelling very well-done。 I cried a bunch。There's quite a lot of snark toward some characte I adored this book， have recommended it to friends several times， and my friends have adored it。I'm very skeptical of therapy and have had mixed experiences with it - this book depicts how I imagine it would work if it worked！ And hearing these stories and the deep wisdom that the author draws from them makes me believe it sometimes does。The writing is deeply touching and the balance between theory and storytelling very well-done。 I cried a bunch。There's quite a lot of snark toward some characters that I found petty and unfair， and as a result I got a bit judgy of the narrator at first， but she ultimately reveals herself to be empathetic。 I still suspect I wouldn't jibe with the author in real life。 She seems a bit oblivious to how people's lives are shaped by their circumstances and how much her own story has been shaped by luck， and tends to assume her life goals and values are everyone's， and that weakens some of the insights。 （The assumption that her goals & values are universal makes her advice column and her writing on romantic relationships unreadable to me。） But this book nevertheless has more insight per page than almost any other I've read - and most of the insights in this case are general enough to be transferable to my very different life and aims。I read this assuming it was majorly fictionalized - if you're into documentary， reliable-narrator， definitely-happened-just-like-this memoir， don't expect that from this book。 It reads like a 30 minute dramedy with a loose 10-episode overarching arc - much too tidy to suspend your disbelief。 But that's probably why it's so emotionally effective！A little disappointed that the Eva Longoria vehicle based on this book seems to be dead in the water， I would totally watch that。Recommended if you're in a mood to feel big feelings but also want to think big thoughts about feelings at the same time。 。。。more
Marta Gonçalves
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Que livro maravilhoso！ 😍 Sem dúvida um favorito da vida！ 💛 Vejam a publicação no meu bookstagram com a minha opinião mais detalhada！ E leiam， leiam mesmo este livro！
Sofia Coelho
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Such interesting and captivating book。 As someone with a Psychology background， I obviously appreciated the perspectives and scientific concepts/theories。 But， MUCH more than that， I loved how easy it was to read， and how engaging and emotional each story was in its own way - from Lori’s own journey， to her patients’。
Maki
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🥺
abby decoursin
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“Besides， how can there be an endpoint to love and loss？ Do we even want there to be？ The price of loving so deeply is feeling so deeply - but it’s also a gift， the gift of being alive。 If we no longer feel， we should be grieving our own deaths。”
Macey Jeffares
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Two stars does feel a little bit harsh， but I truly wouldn’t recommend this one。 The book is so long and it definitely starts to drag…I’m not sure what I expected but it was just different stories about her clients？
Michelle Sahagian
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This is about a therapist who goes through an unexpected breakup and decides to seek out therapy to deal with it， all while seeing patients and using their experiences to shape her own。 Though it felt fairly cliche at times， Lori Gottlieb did a great job detailing her experience as a therapist dealing with a variety of patients， as well as her experiences of being a patient herself。 It was insightful to see a unique perspective on some of the tactics people use in their everyday lives to cope in This is about a therapist who goes through an unexpected breakup and decides to seek out therapy to deal with it， all while seeing patients and using their experiences to shape her own。 Though it felt fairly cliche at times， Lori Gottlieb did a great job detailing her experience as a therapist dealing with a variety of patients， as well as her experiences of being a patient herself。 It was insightful to see a unique perspective on some of the tactics people use in their everyday lives to cope in situations in which so many people find themselves。 There was a good amount of technical jargon and explaining terms， but it didn't feel like it was so much so that it took away from what read like a story。 Gottlieb was open and honest about her own shortcomings and defense mechanisms， and her process of uncovering and dealing with them。 Definitely recommend to read this if you are in therapy or considering it！ 。。。more
Bookperfect2
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“Relationships in life don’t really end， even if you never see the person again。 Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you。 Your past lovers， your parents， your friends， people both alive and dead （symbolically or literally）—all of them evoke memories， conscious or not。”Que belleza de libro， me hizo amar cada pagina， hasta pausar para reflexionar lo que leía， me hizo llorar y encariñarme con cada historia， es un libro muy bello que me hizo recordar porque amo tanto leer y q “Relationships in life don’t really end， even if you never see the person again。 Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you。 Your past lovers， your parents， your friends， people both alive and dead （symbolically or literally）—all of them evoke memories， conscious or not。”Que belleza de libro， me hizo amar cada pagina， hasta pausar para reflexionar lo que leía， me hizo llorar y encariñarme con cada historia， es un libro muy bello que me hizo recordar porque amo tanto leer y querer tanto a los personajes， que se que estos se van a quedar conmigo por un largo tiempo。 。。。more
Garima Agrawal
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This was a tough book to read and definitely more tough to review。 This book deals with the taboo subject of therapy and why the issues we face in our daily lives could be linked to something deeper。 How facing those issues makes your life more fulfilling even though it makes you uncomfortable initially。 This is a story about a therapist and her therapist。 After all， it's easier to guide others than ourselves。 I appreciate the author's honestly on it。 Therapy or rather life is about looking insi This was a tough book to read and definitely more tough to review。 This book deals with the taboo subject of therapy and why the issues we face in our daily lives could be linked to something deeper。 How facing those issues makes your life more fulfilling even though it makes you uncomfortable initially。 This is a story about a therapist and her therapist。 After all， it's easier to guide others than ourselves。 I appreciate the author's honestly on it。 Therapy or rather life is about looking inside you， self-inspection， introspection and being honest to ourselves - this is NOT EASY！ The thing I admired most about the book is - it tells about a therapists' thought process。 How they look at people who are generally termed as "assholes"， how they help them look into them。 I also liked the author's own journey with her issues and denials。 I actually have a lot to say about this book but I won't be able to put it into words as it would go into personal territory。 This book gives people hope， sometimes that things will be better， sometimes that you are doing correct things by keeping your mental well-being over fake relationships and sometimes that help is there and you can still change your life for good！Some of my fav quotes from the book is:Will you see the human in my being？ Follow your envy it shows you what you want Suffering shouldn't be ranked， because pain is not a contest Relationships in life don't really end， even if you never see the person again。 Every person you've been close to lives on somewhere inside you。 。。。more
Shevawn F
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The cover picture is indicative of what you need to start this book—a box of tissues。
sue ying
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4。5 stars。 What a pleasant non fiction book
Carinne Crum
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When it was over I felt really sad inside but it’s a beautiful book and it’s like packing 2 years of therapy into a month！
Amber Rademaker
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Super goed boek， ik raad het iedereen aan om te lezen。 Het is mooi geschreven en leert je veel over therapie zonder zelf te gaan！
Areej
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معالجه نفسيه تنتقل بك من قصه لقصه لمرضى مختلفين يزورونها وتمتزج الحكايات مع بعضها فتارة تكون في قصة جون ثم تقفز لقصة جولي ثم تعود لجون وهكذا ناهيك عن قصتها الشخصيه وتجربتها مع معالجها النفسي 。。 الكتاب رائع يغوص بك في افكار الانسان وكيف يتعامل معها 。。
Thomas Rolwing
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Good practical advice。 Interesting enough book。 I found the pause in conversation idea to be very beneficial to our everyday lives。
Ekaterina
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очень откровенная и смелая книга， невероятные истории обычной жизни обыкновенных людей
Jéssica Castanheira
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Que livro maravilhoso！ 🤩 Recomendo este livro a todas as pessoas， pois acho que todos poderemos retirar algo de positivo da sua leitura。 Sentimo-nos verdadeiramente conectados à autora e aos seus pacientes， bem como ao seu terapeuta。 À medida que lemos sobre os seus problemas， vamos também aprendendo mais sobre nós próprios。 Uma maneira diferente de ensinar e contar histórias， uma mistura de ficção e não-ficção muito bem conseguida。A sério， leiam este livro！
Trina Leary
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Really late to the game on this one， I know。 Not all days do I want to be a therapist but they says I was reading this book I did want to be a therapist！ very honest and soothing to my imposter syndrome lil heart 💘 officially obsessed w Lori gottlieb。
Sarah
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I liked this。 As someone currently seeing a therapist， what I liked most was hearing what it’s like to be on the other side of the room， so to speak。 It’s only one person’s experience but she is a good writer and I think beautifully explained what it is like to walk in her shoes。
Avani Singh
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AMAZING
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